Fight-or-flight-or make peace response?

Good Sunday evening. I hope that everyone is well on their way to starting this week off on a happy note. Remember you have the choice to rule the situation or the choice to let it rule you.

I believe it to be human nature to want to fight and defend one’s self. I mean it is called the fight-or-flight response, not the fight-or-flight-or make peace response. As humans, we have an urge to argue our point so loudly and so long that the whole world will know that we are right. If we win every fight, what are we really winning? If the learning comes in the process of losing, are we not better off to lose as much as we win?  We have a motto in my family that says, “pick and choose your fights wisely.”  In other words, not all fights are worth your energy to wage. Most of the time, what you would win from the fight isn’t worth wining at all.

One of my favorite bible verses is Matthew 5:9 KJV, “Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” I challenge everyone this week along with the 5 challenges from Saturday’s blog to evaluate each conflict you will face this week:

1: Is this worth my time and energy to wage this fight?

2: If I wage this fight, what will I win?  What will I learn?

3: Is what I will win/learn worth the “Happiness Fuel” that I will have to use out of my “Happiness Tank?”

4: Is this a time that I could be the peacemaker instead of the aggressor or the aggresse?

5: What is the ripple effect of being the aggressor, aggresse, or the peacemaker?